Three Reasons Why Every Good Top is a Bottom
The binary rules of gender, sexual orientation and strict sexual positions are so last decade. In 2020, the only rule to love, self-expression, and sex is that there are no rules. And as we break down the binary constructs that, in fact, constrict so many in our community, it’s high time that we ditch the idea that people are either tops or bottoms. To be good at topping, you have to understand the ins and outs of bottoming first.
Here are our top three reasons why every good top is also a bottom.
To be a good top is to experience a good topping
Let’s be honest, a top who has never bottomed before is a little homophobic, right? If you want to be a good top, you have to know what it feels like to have a good topping. Just because you don’t order it off the menu very often doesn’t mean you don’t like the taste. And if you don’t know how it tastes, how in the hell are you going to serve it up properly to your sexual partner?
To be a good top you have to respect the bottom experience
Beyond just the feel of being a bottom, there is a lot that can go into getting ready to so give you the best sex of your life. If you have high standards for the cleanliness of your bottoming friend, you should be fully aware of what it takes to attain it. Besides, your sexual partner might want to play with your hole as well. So don’t just set high expectations for your partner’s hole…. Achieve them yourself.
To be a good top you have to connect with your hole
Piggybacking off of our last reason (get it), it’s important that you don’t neglect your hole. To please someone else’s hole is to be tune with your own. And just because you like to top doesn’t mean your hole can’t have any fun. Hey, bottoms like to rim just as much as they like getting rimmed! So figure out what makes your hole feel good and you will guarantee your sexual partner will be thankful for it.